Started to use tumblr to create feed of my favorite pics

I recently started to use tumblr for creating a blog/feed containing re-posts of my favorite pictures from other people's tumblr blogs/feeds.

This is primarily sort of a bookmark list for myself, but then I don't mind sharing publicly my favorite pic[k]s. Please note that all credits of course go to the original models, photographers, make-up artists. I'm just re-blogging / re-posting, and not contributing any works of art myself.

So in case you're interested, feel free to check it out at http://joerandompervert.tumblr.com/.

More thoughts on remote control

I blogged about my remote control related ideas a couple of years ago, but wanted to refine / extend that a bit.

The main idea is still the concept of being able to reward and punish her invisibly. This can be very handy in public places, where other forms of sexual stimulation or punishment are not possible. There are situations in play parties or in presence of kinky friends where that is possible, but let's say in an office setting, face-slapping definitely has the potential to upset a lot of other people, who won't understand.

One further idea is to use this remote control device for communication, at least uni-directional from master to slave (both in technical as well as bdsm context). The idea would be to use Morse code or a similar alphabet, delivered by very mild electro stimulation. The pulses in that case should be clearly noticeable, but not cause any pain.

So you'd have to teach your slave/sub/toy to read (feel) Morse code and interpret it. That's not too hard, and anyone is able to learn it with some practise. The text could be sent from a computer or (more likely) a smartphone, e.g. by means of an SMS based interface, or even a TCP/IP baaed protocol. The remote-controlled device could be connected via Bluetooth to the phone of the slave/sub.

As a result you have a way to give instruction to your willing sub, without having to speak them out. It's like having a secret language that nobody can understand, but even better in a sense that nobody is even aware of such communication going on. Just imagine a situation where you are in some kind of formal meeting, and you want to give your sub the instruction to open her legs slightly, for your or somebody elses benefit. You cannot really say it aloud, and even whispering it into her ear may be too conspicuous. So you can send that instruction via Morse code. If she doesn't comply, you can use the punishment mode and increase her motivation to follow your orders. If she complies, you could also reward her with some vibration.

I really like that idea of secretly and invisibly taking control of her, without having to speak up. I hope some of the readers equally enjoy this concept. I hope to turn it into reality with a willing submissive girl that wants to be remote controlled that way.

More spare time resulting in more thoughts about sex

I'm currently in the extremely unusual situation of having way more spare time at hand than I've probably had for quite some years. Plus, I'm intentionally offline and all by myself. Apart from reading good books, this also generally gives me a lot of time to think about life, the universe and everything ;)

As it turns out, whenever I'm idle and not otherwise occupied with thoughts, I seem to converge on sex. Not neccessarily actually engaging in sexual activity all the time (though more often than otherwise!) - but thinking and phantasizing a lot.

Maybe triggered by certain recent events (covered in recent blog entries), my sexual mind seems to be revolving quite a bit around doing/having/experiencing whatever I perceive as sexual with multiple women. Of course - like probably 90% of at least caucasian male - I've always thought of it as something fascinating. But it was a very far away dream and not very developed. Now I've apparently had an interesting trigger and my brain has been drawing up all kinds of phantasies. It's definitely a welcome new 'extension'.

Stepping back from it a bit, it only seems very logical. If me, a dominant male, likes the feeling of (even if only temporarily or partially) excerting control or 'owning' a submissive female, why should there be anything strange about wanting that kind of feeling towards multiple subs?

Now obviously even that is very vague. You can just agree on a certain play situation and do that with the particular people in question. Once it's over, everyone minds their own business and you maybe reflect about everyones feelings at some point later. Or you can aim for an actual relationship with multiple people. Which is something that I've traditionally not been able to imagine. I've been in touch with a lot of people who practise polyamory, and at least for the time being I decided that it's not really my way of life. It's hard enough to maintain one serious relationship, let aside running multiple at the same time. But then, that probably really depends on the specific nature of such a relationship. It will certainly not work for the kind of ideal relationship that I've traditionally been looking for: Where you basically try to be as close together as possible, you live together, spend most of your time together, possibly even work together. Now if the relationsips in question are of a quite different type, then the answer might very well be different.

On a sidenote, honestly speaking: It has always puzzled me why to most people tend to think of sexuality as something they only have either as one-night-stands with people they rarely know (and don't want to know) or inside a well-established love-relationship. I would dream of a world where it would not be taboo to have sensual and sexual encounters with people whom are otherwise your friends. Would be great if it was normal to "just be friends", feel close to each other and also share that closeness on a physical level. To me, tenderness, sensuality and sex in all its flavours is something that I want to experience with a [female] person that is close to me. A person that I can trust, one that I feel confident in sharing something very personal with. So who would be better suited than [female] friends? But then, for most people it is a big deal, and I certainly also don't want to risk the friendship. But at least from my side, I don't see the risk. The worst thing that I can imagine is that I would rather not do it again and continue as before, consider it as "an experiment".

I have the feeling that this entire posting is now fairly chaotic. Let me try to summarize what I'm trying to say:

  • I've always been in favour of more sexualization of everything in life, including "regular friendships".
  • I've not been 100% in favour of monogamy, at least not if I am honest with myself.
  • I still think very awkward of one-night stands
  • I'm still deterred by the complexity of polyamory as I perceive it.
  • I'm dreaming/phantasizing about living my fetish and D/s encumbered sexuality with more than one partner (at the same time, not really in two separate relationships) and definitely open to try it, should the opportunity arise.

Pornography and my teenage years

On the weekend, I was attending the 3rd Porn Film Festival. One of the more impressive works presented there was the documentary "Jugend und Pornographie" (youth and pornography).

I think it is a valid subject. For my generation and later generations it is normal to grow up with pornography. I was online in BBS networks starting from the age of 10, and I was on the Internet when I was 15 (which, 15 years ago was really special, at least here in Germany). And of course, especially at that time, nobody really gave much thought about how to protect youngsters from the various X-rated material that was available online.

Since data transmission rates were still pretty low, most of the porn that I had at my hands was actual erotic stories. The kind of stuff that you can today still find on ASSTR. There were plenty of message boards in all networks (FIDO, Z-Netz, T-Netz, later Usenet) in both English and German, where people were hanging out and sharing the erotic stories that they've written themselves. Over the years, I collected more and more.

The only graphics you could find at those 2400bps times was 320x240, so not particularly detailed ;) But there already was a difference between scans of porn magazines, actual digital porn productions of commercial porn BBS's and the amateur porn community.

So starting at the age of 11 or 12, I was more or less regularly reading and watching pornographic material. It's obviously hard to judge what kind of influence this had on the development of my personality and sexuality. Obviously it has lead me to at least respect (or even appreciate) the many different forms of sexuality. Everyone has their own likes and dislikes, preferences, etc. I never had the feeling that it was wrong to use porn to get turned on, to derive sexual pleasure from it. Why would I? I was brought up in no religious tradition, and my parents are not particularly conservative, either.

Still, of course, I had to keep it all secret. My parents did definitely not like the idea (as I experienced later when they came to know that I had access to 'physical' porn). They never had (and still have not) any idea at which age I started watching porn, and to what extent I was collecting piles of it. That was one of the advantages if you were a computer nerd and your parents almost computer illiterate. Whatever you had on your computer without any hard evidence on paper or other physical media was absolutely secret. It is a personal computer, after all.

In any case, I think a documentary like the one shown at the festival is a first and humble attempt to start to get a discussion going. Today, every kid is on the Internet. Everyone can click "yes I am 18" and get access to porn. Only the most computer-illiterate kids will be deterred by 'parental filtering' software. They only catch what they know, and they only know the web, which contrary to many peoples' belief is only one particular part of the Internet.

So the fact is that today, more than ever before, youngsters are watching porn. No matter how much it is against the law, and no matter how much their parents try to prevent it. So we have a legal system, combined with ethical norms that are extremely out-of-sync with how reality actually looks like.

This has been going on for something like 10 to 15 now, and still there is no major public debate about this fact. Most parents either don't know or don't care. Or if they care, they are unable to do something about it. Or they feel embarrassed and rather look away because they don't know how what to do. The Kids will do what they want, but obviously not all of them are able to cope with what they see.

I see some analogies to other debates. Like the debate about first-person shooters (action games), where despite some claims not everyone who plays them will turn into an aggressive personality. Just like not everyone who smokes a joint here and there will become a major drug addict later in his life.

However, I do acknowledge the fact that there are some fragile kids that might not do well and that have not yet developed a strategy how to deal with this. Who do not know or learn that relationships can be based on love and emotion, rather than purely on sex. But then, do we try to (and fail anyway) protect them from porn, at the expense of delaying or holding back the sexual development of everyone else?

In any case, the current system of trying to protect teenagers by futile attempts to keep porn away from them is not working. It's not working for at least a decade, and nobody is proposing any real solution or even attempting a public debate about it.

Maybe it's a reflection on how little many people care about sexuality in general. If they deny themselves from exploring their sexuality freely (by religion, society, ethics, ...) why should a younger generation not be denied, too. *sigh*

About blow jobs

One thing that I never really mentioned so far on this blog are my thoughts on blow jobs. That might relate to the fact that they're something so completely normal to me, that I sometimes forget that for some people it is quite a big deal ;)

In any case. As I happen to be a dominant and slightly sadistic male, I obviously like the concept of sexual activity in which the female partner can show her devotion and submission, and where the male (that would be me) derives more pleasure than she does.

I like the concept of declaring the frequent performance of blow jobs as her "duty". A good girl has to make her master happy. The most important part of her master (for her) is his cock. Thus, she has to do whatever it takes to make him happy, to provide his cock with the maximum possible pleasure.

And what would be better than the devoted and extensive licking and sucking of his cock? Up to the point of gagging (and beyond, see my blog post about deep throating and deep throat training). It's such a great practical demonstration about how important it is for her to please him.

And then, obviously, this raises the question of what to do with the cum. To me, it is obvious: Good girls (aka good sluts) have to swallow. Yes, I think safe sex is important. But I am considering a situation where two responsible non-promiscuous adult people interact with each other after having done thorough STD checking. I like to consider the swallowing as integral part of her "blow job duty" (see above).

This also has the practical advantage that there is no spill. It's very clean, can be performed everywhere, no need for any napkins, no spills on either her or my outfit. Very convenient :)

For that latter reason, I also like her to 'clean off' the cock after vaginal sex. Isn't that much more sexy than using some kind of cloth or napkin?

First-time sex with asian girl

I've never considered myself as somebody having much of an "Asian fetish". Yes, sure, there are many beautiful (and to me sexually attractive) asian women - but that's more or less the same for all ethnicities.

There is one thing about women in South-Eastern Asian mega-cities such as Tokyo, Taipei, Shanghai or Hong Kong: They genearlly do care a lot about style and fashion - much more than many of their western counterparts. Now one may argue what that tells us about social pressure in the respective countries. But given my pre-disposition, I cannot help myself but enjoy the benfit of it. I happen to enjoy women who are more or less obsessed with their outfit :)

Also, in many of those places temperatures tend to be quite high during large parts of the year, facilitating the use of more revealing attire than used in other, colder parts of the world.

Then there is the issue of the truly asian influences in fashion, primarily the much more extensive use of all kinds of stockings like overknees. Being a fetishist means that I will obviously enjoy that :)

Anyway, about a week ago it happened: My 'first time with an asian women'. I wouldn't have assumed that it's that much a big deal to blog about... but it is :) It's probably not as much the fact that she's of asian ethnicity, but much more the fact that she's of a very petite and slim body type. And that simply feels great.

So it's much easier to grab her, to excert some kind of physical control or restriction. For a dominant male, that's a _really_ nice feeling...

Five inches is not enough

The probability is high that you have read this phrase as a subject line of one of the many "penis enlargement spam" mails that are currently flooding the net.

It is interesting, though, what kind of association I initially had (and still have) when first reading that phrase in my inbox: High heels.... where I actually think that five inches are enough, but well, sometimes they aren't, if you want to torture your victims feet a bit more ;)

A sexist trousers fly

I've recently discovered that one of my 'formal' trousers (bought some time ago during one of my trips to India) has the indications/recommendations for washing/cleaning/drying at a quite unusual and peculiar location.

That is: in the fly, hidden beneath the zipper. This makes you wonder for what reason made that particular manufacturer did it this way. Obviously, the fast conclusion of the evil mind is, that the instructions have been strategically placed there because it is invariably to be seen by the well-behaving lady who performs her duty of orally satisfying the guy who wears those trousers.

Furthermore, it supports the conclusion that the same woman would also be taking care of the laundry, thereby providing a two-in-one effect. How efficient. If there wasn't the serious doubt that there are many people who would be able to eroticize washing instructions.

So it remains unclear, whether it really is some kind of a sexist joke, or just a mere coincidence...

Huge archive of erotic stories: ASSTR.org

Back in 'the old days', e.g. before having Internet/Usenet access, but being merely active in the BBS world, I found lots of very interesting erotic stories. There were lots of groups sharing those stories, completely non-commercial, just for the fun of it.

Some of those stories turned into long serials, some of them ended up at the size of a book, 300+ pages if printed (which I actually did).

However, with the end of the BBS scene (and the downfall of Usenet), I got out of touch with any such communities - and due to more and more 'mainstream' getting online, it was harder to find it anyway.

So I basically gave up looking for such 'stories' quite some time ago, until I recently discovered ASSTR, probably the biggest archive of 'amateur' / non-commercial erotic writing on the net.

I've read a couple of them, and I discovered that I enjoy reading 'mind control' phantasies, obviously combined with male dominance and fetish elements. It really is a major turn on to imagine being able to take the phantasy of controlling a female subject further, way beyond what is possible in the real world.

Pervyy haiku poems

This entry will mark the first guest appearance on this blog. Ylith, a friend of mine has tried herself the first time in writing some pervyy haiku poems.

With her permission, I'm therefore able to break the long silence in this blog, which is mostly due to myself being buried alive in work :(

Cocksucker choking
Deepthroating is gift from God
Only masters gain

Little slut dreaming                                                                                        
Of heavenly master dick                                                                                     
Why worry? It will cum                                                                                      
Monster buttplug in                                                                                         
Lubricated gun of pain                                                                                      
Master says: Good girl                             

Remote controlled toys

Being a technology geek since my childhood, and my general interest in all kinds of sex toys, it's easy to understand my fascination of electric/electronic sex toys. Obviously everything that somehow vibrates is already quite nice. E-Play, i.e. toys that apply electric current to the body (such as EMS/TENS units) also is of interest to me.

Please note that I'm not interested in using sex toys on myself. I like to use sex toys to play with a (my!) female toy. Yeah, men and their toys... they'll never grow up.

But what is probably the ultimate line of thought (and arousal) in this area are remotely controlled toys. There are butterflies/vibrating eggs with a cable 'remote' control, which is already quite nice. Being able to make "her" (the female toy) wear a butterfly under her skirt, hiding the cable under some clothes and putting the remote control into some belt bag or similar already poses nice opportunities, especially for provoking her physical sexual arousal in (semi-)public [but not too silent!] places.

Another interesting method is to attach any vibrating device (let's stay with the butterfly for some time, since from my experience this is the most effective, because clit-stimulating toy) to a computer. Now add a web cam or similar, and make your remote partner use that equipment. Software-controlled vibrators can also be programmed to perform very interesting "ramp-up the level slowly and then pause for some time" operations. I've built (and tested) one such device, and I can tell you it was incredibly joyful for both her and me. I didn't touch her once. She was tied to a chair, unable to close her legs or to touch herself with her hands. Wearing a butterfly connected to a computer, while I was controlling it from my laptop, carefully testing the various interval/pause ratio to see how she'll react.

Anyway, another project that I used to work on some three to four years ago, is a real remote control, by using tiny RF modules. There now are some cheap (well, actually they are only low-quality and still cost quite a bit of money) RF controlled sex toys, but they have extremely low range (3m), are unreliable, inflexible (just on/off) and low battery lifetime. Buying any of these is a terrible waste of money. So I was working on that DYI project. Unfortunately I then was with a partner who wasn't really interested in such forms of sex, and the project was abandoned.

I've recently been working on a number of RF communications related projects, including the design of a tiny, ultra-low-power 2.4GHz transceiver. The plan is now to reuse this design to revamp that remote control plan. Since the transceiver contains a small micro-controller, programming it with various vibration patterns/curves is not a problem at all, even on-the-air readjustment of the patterns is easy to do. A small control unit (key-chain-size) would probably only offer some three buttons (mode, up, down) to select pre-programmed patterns, but using a PC or some bigger PDA-like device you would have the full control.

Now stop the tech babble and get back to what I would do with that kind of device? Well, just get back to the start of this entry. I'm extremely fascinated by the possibility to "bother" my partner with physical arousal in unexpected situations. This device gives plenty of opportunity to do so.

The second version definitely also needs to include support for controlling some form of an electric shock unit (this could be a generic e-play output, allowing for soft stimulations up to hard shocks). Then the operator of the control unit is put into a position where he can both reward and punish at a fingertip. Yes, there are electric dog collars which basically support the punishment operation. But they look quite ugly, and are visible to the outsider. Also, I would want to apply the electric current at some different location ;)

Given my current spare time, it will still take some time to do this. It's not a skill level at all, mostly a time issue. But at the moment I'm aiming for August to finish at least the first vibration-only version.